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I used to work really hard because I thought I had to to survive economically and I have learned years later that was really just an excuse/distraction so I would not have time to really see or feel what was going on in my life, even though it seemed pretty good.

I really became aware of this issue a few years ago on vacation. I started noticing or maybe the woman I was in a relationship with noticed I was having a bit of a difficult time relaxing at the beach of a beautiful lake we were at. I was surprised and disagreed with her at first until later I noticed she was right. It used to be so easy for me to stop and rest. I thought because I had learned to be a better person, learned all these great skills and tools. Agh and MANY years later I find that to not be the case.

What I have found now that I theoretically have more time and do not have to show up at a regular job is it is REALLY difficult to stop and sit at the beach, or by a beautiful lake…something I used to LOVE to do and really cherished every moment when doing it.

I recently realized that before, earlier in my life I was always so exhausted from working 12 to 18 hours days when I stopped it was easy to relax, I was just to tired to do anything else.  Now it is almost uncomfortable, to stop and relax, now that I can chose to work or not. Why?

Right this moment I am sitting by a stunningly lake that I love AND part of me is having a hard time relaxing. I feel like I should go home and get things done (which a lot of I can do here if I chose to).

So what makes me uncomfortable sitting here?

My life is really good right now, maybe even close to fabulous. Anyway it is really good and all the skills, tools, techniques or practices and awareness have given me the abilities to create a life that is so much better than before, yet I am feeling uncomfortable some of the time.

What it is and why so many of us keep busy/distracted is so we don’t stop and feel what is not working in our lives or we are uncomfortable with some part of our life.

I am feeling a little guilty that I get to be here and other people in general and people I am close to don’t get to be here. I feel a little guilty that I don’t have to show up at a forty hour a week job even though I spent most of 30+ years working 12 to 18 hour days. And this beautiful place I would often come to with my ex and my daughter and we have had a lot of special times here.

I did a lot of work to be able to let it be ok to come to this favorite spot, yet there still seems to be a bit of a charge (some kind of energy that affects me and or you when you have something that is making you feel good or bad) and in this case an uncomfortable charge. I am mostly ok with being here, yet there is still a little there, a little charge that makes me want to leave or go home.

Guess I have a bit more work to do on why I feel this way and to look at why else I am a bit uncomfortable with being here. It is such an odd feeling for me to be uncomfortable in a place I have been coming to since I was a kid, since I have so many (boatloads) of good/great experiences here.

It just shows what complicated beings we humans are and how important it is to pay attention to why and how we feel about things and then look for ways to release the energy charges that cause us pain and suffering….to make bad choices in our lives. Life is so much better when we spend less time in pain and suffering and more time smiling.  

When we make a decision it affects are lives, one way or another. I could be just a little thing or it could be something big. So often we make decisions when we are backed into a corner, when we are under pressure, stressed out and USUALLY very unclear.

Almost always when we make decisions from a bad place the decision turns out bad. Maybe immediately we notice a bad decision like we make a bad choice and it causes a fight with someone you care about, maybe your spouse or significant other…which is very unpleasant and often snowballs into long periods in pain and suffering… usually for yourself and affects the other person also.

What can you do? Make an effort to ONLY make decisions when you are in a good place. A good place meaning you feel good, your not under pressure, you are happy or at least content. When ever you make decisions from that place they will usually be better.

What happens if you are not in that “good” or “ok” place. Wait if you can, ESPECIALLY if it is a big decision!!!!! We humans SOOOOO often shoot ourselves in the foot when we make decisions when we are not in a “good” place (and good place does not me Yosemite or your favorite hang out, it means how you feel, how clear is your head, do you feel grounded (feel stable), and no one trying to coherst you doing what they want or you are making a decision because you feel you owe someone or out of guilt.

It is best even when making little decisions (or what you think is a little decision) to wait until you are in a more clear, balanced, grounded, light, happier place. It is best to wait even with perceived little decision for often it is the little things that change the world and our world in big ways. We just can not always see how something we presume to be little could turn into a huge life changing event.

If you can not wait, ask someone that is NEUTRAL to your situation for some input. BUT it is still best to wait. Most things can wait, even when you are absolutely certain they can not. Most of the time you will find after a little time goes by (or cooling off or getting more clear period) that it was not really an urgent decision and you will often find after waiting until you are more clear it often will seem not so important as it did in the heat of the moment…. the moment you though you had to make a decision.

The Effects of Exercise on Stress

By Sherry Gray, eHow Contributor

We live in a stressful world. As a society, we are always too busy, overworked, underappreciated, and laden with ever more demanding responsibilities, concerns and fears. To make matters worse, we rarely get enough sleep. Most of us live, commute and work elbow-to-elbow with our neighbors, in environments where the activity never stops. With unemployment and economic strife topping the news, stress relief is paramount to maintaining health. Fortunately, there’s a cheap, if not always easy, solution. The effects of exercise on stress are dramatic.

The Endorphin Rush

Physical activity stimulates production of endorphins, the neurotransmitter chemicals in your brain that make you feel good. The effect is like a natural high that acts as an anti-depressant, boosting your mood with a psychological lift that lasts long after you’ve stopped moving.

Anger Management

A high-stress environment leads to a buildup of frustration and anger, which can often manifest in inappropriate ways, like irritability or even road rage. If you find yourself snapping at your family with little reason, put on your walking shoes and hit a scenic trail. For best effect on anger issues, avoid crowds and find a place that harbors solitude and peaceful ambiance. In addition to the endorphin rush, you’ll clear your head, absorb the beauty of your surroundings, and possibly work out some problems. You’ll come home happier and less inclined to snap.

Pride

Exercise lends an undeniable sense of pride of accomplishment. Doing something healthy and good for you will boost confidence and self-esteem. Getting in shape is a powerful tool for improving general outlook. As it changes the way you see yourself, it will also change the way others see you.

Better Health

Great health is one less thing to stress over, and exercise is the best thing you can do to improve your health. Even people with health issues can find something they can do to improve. Simply walking is a great exercise, but if you can’t walk, find a water aerobics class or take a yoga class designed to improve flexibility.

Sleep

We all need seven to eight hours of solid, uninterrupted sleep, but who gets that these days? Getting exercise during the day will help you fall asleep faster and sleep deeper. Better rest equals less stress.

Focus and Energy

Exercise increases the flow of blood to the brain and oxygen to the lungs, which helps improve focus and increases energy, resulting in increased productivity. Before you attack a thorny problem or when your energy flags in the afternoon, try a 20-minute walk to jumpstart your brain.

We all have to live with stressful situations, but we do not have to live with the anxiety, irritability, loss of concentration, loss of sleep, health issues, and depression that result from daily stress. Anyone can reap the benefits of the effects of exercise on stress by getting in just 20 to 30 minutes of physical activity each day.

this Wayne Dyer video has lots of different concepts to get you to think about how you live your life and some changes you can make AND HE IS FUNNY!

If you constantly listen to, watch and surround yourself by inspirational people, videos, music, books your life WILL change and improve!!!!

Sometimes we think we have to make huge changes to get the results we want to see in our lives. This Tony Robbins video has some great stories that really show sometimes just a tiny change can create a big result. Check it out and PLEASE comment and share!

So it is 1:05 am on Wed Aug 24 after spending 15 1/2 hours in a seminar (we did get a lunch and dinner break) which got over about 11:00 pm and then I needed to come back and spend almost two hours editing my first guide. We only had about 30 minutes in class to produce a written online guide. It is improved and far from done. At least there is something there. Have to be up at 6:15 am again to prepare for another 15 1/2 hours day. We just finished day three of five. Hopefully soon there will be regular content and info up. For now all there is is two video’s, a couple comments, and one blog post. More two come in the next few weeks. Made good progress tonight at finding my way around the web development software. Wow, setting up a web site to actually work and bring people to see it is quite challenging. I have set up a couple of informational web site which were easy….a piece of cake compared to this. So happy to be learning and taking steps on something I have needed to do for quite awhile. Have a GREAT Night!!

Sometimes watching what others can do can motivate us. These twelve year old girls did something really amazing. The subject is a bit depressing and what these young girls did is TOTALLY AMAZING. What can we do if we really make an effort.

This is the first post on my blog. The site is barely up. Things work and I can see I have a ton to learn and do. The game plan is it is time for me to start using my skills as a teacher and coach to work with people. I have had the opportunity for the last 5 or so years to really help so many to deal with life’s hurdles and it has also helped me deal with mine. I have been so fortunate to have had a great deal of experiences that pretty much forced me to learn and grow. To learn and find ways to reduce life’s painful situations and bring more joy to my life and those I am close to. I realized years ago my purpose for being on this planet is to help myself and others to live better lives, to live with more joy, with more passion, with more enthusiasm. To better be able to get thru a day, to maybe in play and have fun. With my business I found what worked best was no matter how hard it was, no matter how big a hurdle the universe threw at me or the business or the employees, no matter how ugly a day could get the best way through the mess was to PLAY LIFE FULL OUT, what ever that is at the moment. So that is how I came up with the name….and other url or web site names I wanted were gone…. so here it is PlayLifeFullOut.com.